"Thats wonderful! It's too bad we can't get that type of respect anyway."
I stopped and thought, "You know, why can't we get that type of respect without a scarf?" Why does it take a scarf to get a man to give me space on the train or for them to say "excuse me" before passing? Or if they do bump in to you they apologize at least. Or to let me go first through the door so as to not shove me ( I LOVE that one the most). Shouldn't they do that anyway because I am a woman and it is respectful/polite to do so? What happened to manners in this world. Even when I am in modest clothing sans scarf I still do not get the type of respect I deserve as a woman. My personal bubble is constantly invaded. Yes I live in a very crowded place but that does not excuse rudeness or disrespect.
Any thoughts ladies?
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Most men where I live are pretty respectful, thankfully. NOT all of them, but mostly. And I don't wear a scarf. :)
ReplyDeleteHmmm maybe its the big city thing.
ReplyDeleteI think that if you give the impression that you're religious by your clothing that this would happen. i think you would also see if if you looked like a nun or an Orthodox jew. of course, those looks generally include a head covering of some sort ;-)
ReplyDeleteIt's true - it *shouldn't* take a scarf to get that sort of respect. I think it does depend some on the area. I *love* it when guys open the door for me (the hubs has always been very good about that - I'm not sure I remember the last time I opened the car door for myself when he's with me, lol!) and where I live they're all pretty good about it.
ReplyDeleteimo, the way you carry yourself can have a lot to do with it. When I went out in niqab for the first (and so far only) time I was initially SUPER timid but as I walked around and realized that I probably couldn't have picked a less threatening venue (Ikea :P) and gained confidence the people were quite nice. OR it was just my perception. I don't know.
Anyways, that's my (rather long, sorry) two cents.
Hmm...
ReplyDeleteWhile I do get people being *more* friendly and respectful (especially men on the respectful side), it's not as though they're not typically respectful even without the scarf. I think it might just be a big city vs. everywhere else thing....
And, of course, I live south of the South, so we get more Southerners here, and they tend to be very polite with women.
You'll always get that one or the other guy or woman who has no respect, but that's the way they're raised. No manners.
And yes, I do tend to think that the (damn) Yankees are insanely rude. ;)
LOL WE SO NOT ALL RUDE!.....ok some are lol.
ReplyDeleteYeah it might be the big city. Everyone keeps to their agenda only and notices no one else. It may be how the scarf changes how I carry myself that does it. I know modest clothing changed the way I carry myself and I felt like I was getting more respect then. Its just an interesting observation.
LOL @ Amber's comments about (damn) Yankees! ;-) I live in the South and most of the men are pretty respectful. Not always, but you can tell some of them have manners. :)
ReplyDeleteLOL, Amber! ^_^ I know what you mean! Everyone says "Texans are so polite", but when I got here, I thought they were awfully rude! (By comparison to my life in Florida and Georgia.)
ReplyDeleteIve had issues in Texas too but Florida and Georgia everyone was so nice. Only issues I've ever had in Florida was Miami but Miami is a strange place. Texas seems to want to be its own country so who knows LOL.
ReplyDeleteAmber, No knocking Yanks now, I am one!
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