1) We need to have things in common so we can actually go out and enjoy stuff together. I don't want to be like my parents who don't do anything because they have nothing in common.
2) Friendship. This is incredibly important to me because after about a year that crazy chemical attraction wears off and you are left with compatibility. One of the best ways to ensure a long relationship is friendship. It means you have more interest in each other outside of a dating relationship.
3) Kindness and understanding. I can get a little overly emotional. I need my man to be able to sit back, take it in, then calmly deal with me. Usually takes a kind and understanding person to do that.
4) Must be a geek. Its a requirement. Only a geek will ever truly understand me. Doesn't need to be full on geek, but has to understand geek-ness.
5) Someone who is independent. I don't want to have to take care of them all the time. They also can't be constantly indecisive...that drives me crazy. I want him to take initiative sometimes.
6) He can't be orthodox in any religion. Its too hard to blend orthodox and reformed. In fact, anyone too into one particular religion might not work well for me. But he does need to believe in God.
7) Intelligence. I like men I can have an actual conversation with who are interested in books and philosophy and the world, not just football.
8) He needs to have drive. I can't stand unmotivated men. If life isn't working for you do something about it. Go toward a goal.
9) Someone who's family understands the customs of the country they live in. Also, a family who is not too into their religion and can accept people from outside their culture/ethnicity.
10) Someone who will talk to me when something is bothering them. I hate when partners avoid confrontation because they don't want to upset you. Avoidance just makes things worse.
11) Someone who is an American citizen.
12) I would do well with a left brainer. As I am 100% artsy right brained, I tend to not get along well with people who are also right brained. That is because I am right brained but practical/realistic. Many right brainers are not. I prefer mathematicians, scientists, philosophers, physicologists, IT, or technicians. Maybe a graphic designer. Absolutely no actors...EVER. That mistake I will not make again.
13) Someone who does not get drunk. I really don't think I could date someone who likes to get drunk.
14) Someone who can go out on the town, but be just as ok staying in and watching TV.
15) I'd love a man who would set up romantic surprises. I've never had one of those and I think they'd be fun lol.
What do you want in man/woman?
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Oh I really want to do this! But I'm already married. Can I still do it??? :D *Evil*
ReplyDeleteYES STILL DO IT! LOl
ReplyDeleteWe should turn this into a tag! It is fun. :D
ReplyDeleteLOL @ number 4. I stopped just short of saying that, but yes, I agree with it!
I get the feeling some of these are motivated by your recent past too? ;o) It's funny, when I first split up with my husband I thought, how will I find someone exactly like him but without the religion issue? Now, just a couple of months later, what I want is totally different!
LOVE.
ReplyDeleteSarah: Oh yes some of this is motivated by him :) Until him, I never thought I'd have to worry about 6 or 9. But I do like Desi boys so I might have to LOL jk jk. Actually, the sad part is outside of 6, 9, and 15 he fit the bill completely. But I know there are more men in the sea. 6 and 9 are really hard to overcome...they kinda blow having the rest of the list out of the water. So if 6 and 9 aren't met it really doesn't matter if you can meet the rest because you definitely won't be happy.
ReplyDeleteHe will be hard to beat though.
And yes, geek-ness is a must :)
Thanks Barbie Jones :)
ReplyDeleteI did this exercise several years ago. There were 25 items. All of them were basically exactly the same. So:
ReplyDelete1. Respect
2. Respect
3. Respect
Etc.
Caraboska: Oh respect is such a given I didn't even think to put it on there lol there is no point in even entertaining a man who doesn't respect you.
ReplyDeleteI like basically everything you say, but I don't much care if (s)he would believe in God or not, since I'm pretty fickle about that anyway.
ReplyDeleteLoved your list! I want to read Suroor's list, too! :-P
ReplyDeleteooohh, I like this. I agree with much of what is on your list, too. :)
ReplyDeleteSusie, you are so naughty :D
ReplyDeleteI loved your list LK!